The #1 question women ask themselves and how to answer it.
Here’s the #1 question that runs in the mind of many women – unfortunately unchecked:
“What’ wrong with me?”
This question arises mainly for women because the world we’ve been born into doesn’t accommodate our natural needs for play, magic, being, intimacy, rest and creation – it invalidates them.
As a result, we try to live according to this subconscious (and sometimes blatant) message we receive from the western enviroment:
“Be better, do better, be what we want you to be but whatever you do – don’t be you.”
It’s a linear, never ending quest for power, prestige, productivity and fame.
This is the world that responds to our needs for rest, restoration, play and vulnerability with the same answer each time we try to claim what is important: “Your needs do mean s*** to us.”
And then we abandon them ourselves.
This linear world allows only a tiny fraction of our whole existence into conscious life (so we try to do the same at a great price).
Being productive has highest value, is blown out of proportion – put up as the entire norm for all living things (even cows who have to give milk until their udder bleads).
The thing that keeps this soul-less system going? Silence.
The silence about the suffering its demands causes IN us.
Silence that causes shame because we never hear anybody else having problems with the way we’re living.
Continuing to be exhausted, sad and productive as if that deserves a medal of honor.
In the meanwhile shame in people is growing taking on all forms possible:
Ashamed of not being liked, of being too slow (in everything), of not meeting a target, of being unhappy when we shoudn’t be, of working part-time, of lacking motivation, of eating too much, of forgetting things, of wanting a romantic partner, of wanting children, of not wanting children, of needing to rest, of taking a nap, of drawing for drawings sake, of dancing instead of working etc.
In the end it has us think (silently): “Something must be seriously wrong with me if I need (X) or can’t do (Y).”
And we keep asking: “What is wrong with me?” until we find it.
We project this question to everyday events (like eating, sleeping, talking, flirting, working, studying etc.) and into our (“failed”) relationships.
In my opinion, we MUST stop asking this question because it deadens our soul.
It’s responsibility misplaced.
How about a serious conversation with the world: “What is wrong with you?”
If you cannot grasp what I mean, I would highly recommend inquiring:
“What is wrong with the world we live in?”
This is a legitimate question.
It’s time to outsource the shame and the problem of allowing only half of an existence.
Stop taking all the responsibility for mistakes and flaws that aren’t even yours.
Heck! Get angry for once – it’ll be worth it.
Wake up and be part of the change!
Let’s stop asking ourselves if we’re defective or broken.
We’re not broken, we just live in a system that has us belief that we are.
And it has us believe that so we don’t see for ourselves that IT IS BROKEN!
This system is in ALL OF US but WE ARE NOT IT!
We all learned (to a certain degree) to live by it and we can unlearn that.
First, become conscious of it in order to evolve beyond.
Into a more wholesome expereince of life in which needs are honored and women are asked for guidance and intuition again.
We – as people who choose to feel and live in integrity with nature – must understand: WE DO NOT AND WILL NEVER FIT INTO THE WORLD AS IT IS.
We must allow ourselves to feel the pain of living in a world that has forgotten how to be human, how to care about living beings and the earth at large.
The pain is real even if no one acknowledges it.
It’s a world living in denial.
In order to change anything, we must be part of the change.
There’s no other way (has there ever been?)
I’m not the first one to say this, so please see this only as a reminder of what you already know.
The most important part:
The way to start being the change is simple.
Whenever you notice yourself asking: “What’s wrong with me?”
Let alarm bells wake you!
Stop in all that you’re doing and reflect:
- What role am I trying to play here?
- What am I afraid of?
- What standard am I trying to fill?
- What limiting beliefs have me doubt myself here?
- What do I belief about myself in this situation?
It’s really time to unveil the system and start living in tune with your WHOLE rythm including needs, play, intuition and magic.
Own ONLY your part of the problem – not the part of an entire world.
It’s time to reflect, really, what is actually working and what has to be released.
So we can be free of the unnatural burdens of striving for power over all things female in nature, the earth and everything that sparks magic in our bones.
And free to be our whole selves KNOWING: Nothing is wrong with us, we are perfectly whole.
What are the moments when you ask yourself the question?
Question it now.